Our Fight

I studied Psychology to understand what had happened to me and what is still happening to me. No I am not still being abused by my brother but yes I am still a victim of what he did to me. Those of us who made it out of the abuse are survivors in many ways. We are alive, we have grown up and go through everyday trying to push through. I am still a victim, In many ways I am still paralyzed by what has happened to me. It has been said that “Admitting is the first step to recovery” so I am admitting that in many ways I am still broken. I have not understood, I do not understand. I know the facebook page has mainly been me communicating and that is ok because I know the rest of you who are survivors of childhood sexual abuse are reading and at least you know you are not alone. That there are others who feel and react in many of the same ways you do. I want us, women, from everywhere, but primarily Caribbean women to be strong. I want us to realize that if we push forward we can help things change, that we have to start making changes because if not we are condemning our children and grand children to the same environment we grew up in. An environment where women are not valued, where men can beat women and get away with it or be charged a nominal fee, where the laws for women are pretty much non-existent because if they existed women would feel safer coming forward. We have to demand change; our fore mothers fought for some of the rights that we now enjoy. It is our duty to continue the fight for those that follow. I have spoken about seeing what I can do to make a difference but I to am guilty of not really making the move. The time for being proactive is now and if I have to start this battle on my own, I will. I know in time the rest of you will join.

Baby Steps

Talking about this has been the hardest thing I have ever had to undertake. Putting yourself out there and telling people one of your darkest most shameful secrets is by no means easy. So, please believe me when I tell you I know how hard it is. Not many of us have anyone we can turn to, the people we expect to understand and stand by us usually let us down. We have to want to make it better, we have to want to deal with it; because as history has shown me; not very many will be there to help you. You have to want to get better. Just always know there is a family of females out there who will hold your hand and help you out. We know what it feels like and we will be there always. Do not let anyone make you feel guilty for taking steps to lighten the weight you have been carrying.